boys/men

why? why are they so difficult?! why isnt there any good ones? ok so i get i have a patteren of finding the really wrong ones.. but aghhhhhh how they heck do u find the good ones? this is so frustrating. i keep hearing stop looking.. ok i stopped still run into the wrong ones! im stuck. i need a change.. big change in my life... dont mean just my love life.. i feel like ive been on pause. time to get off my ass and do something good for myself.